Ask yourself: Have you acknowledged and processed your feelings in this situation? That could look like - journaling, venting, having a good cry, hiring a coach, talking to a support buddy, etc. Once you process through the emotions, then your intentions and commitments become much clearer, so you can respond from a place of freedom in seeking a resolution.

Questions to ask yourself before having a Fearless Conversation
(8 Fearless Conversation Skills)

1.      Seeing the other person's point of view. (Innocence)
How willing are you to give up being right in this situation in order clarify what the other person may have been thinking or feeling? 
Are you willing to hear the other side of this situation with an open mind?
Are you willing to have compassion for those who you do not agree with?

2.      Believing and standing up for yourself. (You Can Do It)
Sometimes because we have some evidence from the past - we make things up based on that. If you allow, even a 1% chance that what think you believe may not be true, would you approach this conversation differently?
What has worked in the past in resolving similar issues? What hasn't?
How willing are you to speak your truth in this situation?

3.       Exploring new possibilities for a solution. (Opportunities and
           Possibilities)
What opportunities is this situation giving you? i.e.: an opportunity to identify what being true to yourself means, an opportunity to set clear boundaries, an opportunity to clarify, an opportunity to practice seeing innocence, etc.)?
Are there any new possibilities for a solution?
What skills are you willing to work on in order to find resolution?
Are you willing to believe that a resolution is possible?

4.      Eliminating assumptions. (No Preconceived Notions)
What is your most single concern about this situation? Are you willing to give that up?
Are you willing to hear the other side of the situation with no preconceived judgments?
What is your best guess of the other person's biggest concern? Could you be wrong?

5.      Tapping into your inner-strength. (Inclusive)
What does your gut tell you to do about this situation?
If you trusted yourself, how could you resolve this situation?
What are your choices?
Have you discussed your thoughts and feelings directly with the appropriate party?
Are you willing to include the other party in this process?

6.      Clarifying what you really want. (Clarity)
Define what you really want in this situation.
What if you could only have one thing, what would it be?
What is it that you are too afraid to tell yourself or ask for?
Have you asked the other party what they want?"

7.      Taking Action. (Action vs. Stories)
What can you do that would support you to let go of this situation?
What would you like to accomplish?
How can you do this?

8.      Learning from this Experience. (Speak to Acknowledge Risk)
Where have you grown in this situation?
What will you do differently next time?
What have you learned about yourself? Others?
What has changed for you?

If you would like more one-on-one practice having a Fearless Conversation or would like to embody the skills to a deeper degree, we invite you to attend the Fearless Conversations Workshop. This is a two-day interactive workshop where you get hands-on experience with all 8 essential coaching skills. Or if you prefer to work on this privately, we invite you to seek a Certified Fearless Living Coach. Either way, you will learn valuable skills that will last a lifetime.

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